November 5th, 2008


I am not pleased with the election.

I'll get this out of the way first: yes, I'm glad that Obama won. I cheered when it was announced, and I beamed when he made his acceptance speech. I am glad that McCain was very gracious in his speech, he was finally the McCain I admire again. I am glad that Obama won so decisively, because it might give lessons for future campaigns -- specifically, I hope to never again see someone I admire turn into someone so derisive because he thinks it might score him more votes. Though, I know I'll be disappointed on this score, but hey, I can hope.

Why am I sad? Because of two measures that passed.

The first is the famous Prop 8 in California. I am told that there were ads depicting a young girl talking about learning about two princes marrying in school being one of the most influential, even if dead wrong, pieces of propaganda for this. This appalls me, because it shows that the anti-equal marriage folks are still using "Think of the Children!!!" as their basis for justifying their selfish needs to impose religious morales on our government. But, they're doing anything but thinking of the children. How many parents of children woke up this morning, their marriage now nullified? How many children woke up to very sad parents, unable to understand what is going on? This one hits me personally, of course, because Kestin's parents are among those who were married legally in California this summer, and I am infuriated that this is taken away from them now.

But the second is far more horrible. Act 1 in Arkansas decreed that no unmarried couple (gay, lesbian, straight, or whatever) who live together can adopt or even foster children. Single parents who live alone are exempt. Of course this opens the door to all kinds of abuses of that, and of course this means that the adoption/foster system, already taxed by too few people supporting it, will be very suddenly burdened with kids who are taken from "illegal" homes. And this is why I wept last night. I thought of all of those children who had been living with their families for months, maybe years*, now pulled from those homes and thrown into the suddenly more overburdened system. In many of those cases, perhaps these are the only homes those children ever knew about. Who the hell was thinking about the children when they voted for this Act? This is an awful thing to do to them.

So this is why I am very sad, and I am not pleased with this election. Bitterly, I want everyone who voted for Prop 8 in California wakes up unmarried one day, and everyone who voted for Act 1 in Arkansas to have their children unnecessarily taken from them. Because, you know, think of their children being exposed to such hatred of those who do not deserve it.

* The adoption process is a very long one. While I don't expect that this act applies to adoptions that have already finalized, I do expect that families awaiting their final court date now are affected, and some of those may have been waiting for a year or two. Of course foster families often have children for many years.